Fitting in in the rave scene is important. If you do not find a group to hang out with in a short period of time you could face being ostracized by the rave community as a whole. In this guide we identify the major groups that you may want to join and various means of becoming one of them.

First of all let me welcome you to the rave world. In our community you will read and hear much about togetherness, unity and common good. This is particularly true if the people you are talking to have a commercial interest in the rave scene or if thay are very new to the rave scene. Here is you first tip to fitting in.

TIP #1: Don't be snowed by people claiming its all about the music, the vibe, or some other altruistic reason

Mostly people who state this fall into one of two categories. The first being they are interested in the rave scene for some commercial reason. This could be the DJ who plays out, the promoter throwing the party, or the store owner that sells rave gear. It is easy to perceive the reason they would do this, when you think about what the "classic" rave scene is supposed to be. Classically the view of the rave scene was one of utopian bliss where one can be accepted despite ones differences. Since this is usually the initial appeal to new ravers it is important to keep this myth going.

Many times people with a commericial interest will protest this argument with various canned statements. Here are a few with a prepared response, as these can be stumpers if you are hearing them for the first time.

S: Its all about the music for me man/dude/girl.

A: If its all about the music then why don't we just listen to some cd's at home

S: I love to dance

A: Why don't we go home and dance to some cd's

What ever they say you must remember these people have a vested interest in the rave scene has a healthy attendence. In order to convince you there is some greater reason for you to come to the event they will tell you countless things. Some are seeking fame, some fortune.. either way it requires you and your friends being there for their goals to be acheived.

TIP #2: Do not believe anyone who says we're all one happy family

Again the myth of universal acceptance is a common draw for new comers to the rave scene. Many are duped into believing this through the use of drugs or alcohol. The statement that we are a family of sorts though couldn't be further from the truth. The beleif in idea marks you as a new comer and will regulate you to the new comer circles ( infer not cool ) of the rave scene

You need to make sure you are never confused with the members of this group. First you should rebuff someone uttering a statement that we are a community or group. A good retort to this statement would be "Yeah right and unicorns might fly out of my butt" or "Dude, I want what this guy/girls drinking" or more forcefully "What a fucking tool". Second you should observe who is in this group if possible and stear clear of them. No need to be seen with them, unless of course you are mocking one of them

TIP #3: Don't do drugs, in public

I know this may seem odd. You the newly minted raver see all those other "cool" kids rolling face and they look like they are having a blast. Well they are but just watch them for more than ten minutes and you'll feel a wave of disgust over come you. Between the sweaty, nonsensical discussions, facial expressions only a drunk contortionist could do, and all the fluid swapping they are positively gross. If your going to do something that makes you act that ridiculous do it some where private.

TIP #4: Dress upscale

You want to be in the upscale raver group, the ones that look like they might have a professional life so that you look semi intelligent. Most of the ravers are there to try in fit in, so they take the "raver wear" to an extreme. If you stand out by being a cross between normal and chic and raverish you woll be seen as a leader, someone who can think for themselves. You may notice some will think of you as not really into it because you are not dressed in clown pants and glitter. If being insulted by people in clown pants in glitter bothers you then stop reading this, there is nothing we can do for you.

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